Me , Life , Advice

A TEEN'S TAKE ON 'PEER PRESSURE' AND 'CHANGE'  

Hi! I hope you all are doing okay and are happy :) but if not , its okay ! You'll be fine very soon and remember that you are not alone! Everything will fall back into place soon!!

So in this blog I'm going to share how I feel about peer pressure and changes that took place and continue to take place in my life now that I've become a teenager . And I have a lot to say about these subjects , so brace yourselves!

I feel like people all around the world struggle with peer pressure and are forced to do some or the other thing that they don't want to but especially teens because everyone around us is changing , we are changing and we all want to just 'fit in' including me as I'm no different from all. But to fit in means we can't say NO to the things we don't want to do. We say YES even when everything in us disagrees with it. To fit in means to not stand out but that's the thing we all are meant to stand out , we are all very different and so we have different opinions on things and different paces to do things. 

I feel like I'm pressurised to be cool , to date , to curse , to be unkind to people , to party , to not study , to break rules etc etc. I know all of these things seem so small but in the end it is these things that change us entirely and can lead us onto a wrong path. Then there's this pressure to study hard , to score good in exams , to plan your future , to know everything about where you are headed and what stream you will choose , what college you will go to , internships , jobs and the list is endless. To be honest I'm a nerd. Yes there it is ! I like to study , I crave academic validation and I like to read books . I find it extremely difficult to make friends and to maintain friendships so I have this weird thought that is stuck in my mind that because of all this , I might not be enjoying my teenage years , so there's this separate pressure to enjoy teen so that in future I can tell people all about my life experiences and my teen years (I know it sounds corny but it is what it is). I know that it shouldn't be a pressure to enjoy life but somehow it has become one for me. So all of this plays a major role on our mental health and so many thoughts swirl in our heads like I'm not enough or I'm a bore or scares about future , we constantly compare ourselves and all of this makes us anxious and insecure!

But it is important to know that you are not alone , everyone is struggling with this. Everyone is cool and fun in their own unique ways. You have to realise that you are more than enough and you are not meant to fit in but to stand out and be confident in who you are. Take your time and don't let others intimidate or pressure you to do things and make decisions and do things at your own pace.

Then there is CHANGE. So many things change when we enter our teenage years though not immediately but gradually .We start to see things as they actually are and not how we want them to be. But that is a huge problem in itself because we feel confused about what the reality is and who we actually are? We experience change in ourselves , our friends everything.  Our relationship and friendship dynamics change. We also experience change in our body which makes us really uncomfortable and insecure about ourselves even though these changes are completely natural. We are confused and unhappy and pressured most of the time. We are not at all ready for these changes and find it difficult to adapt to them and honestly I don't think it'll get any easier in the next few years but I know it will get better someday , so we keep grinding , struggling , working till we reach that day I guess. We can't give up or lose hope right!? 

So I think ill stop now, I feel like I have ranted enough for today. I hope I worded my thoughts correctly and was able to help you or make you feel better about things. Anyways , let me know how you struggle and deal with peer pressure and change as a teenager. Thanks for reading and have a good day!

I love you!